What Makes a Good Groomsman? 6 Things to Consider

We exist for groomsmen and grooms. Our company was founded on the brotherhood and belief in each other that the wedding party represents. The lifeblood of any groom (outside of his partner, of course) is his best man, and his group of merry men who he considers the most important people in his life. The groomsmen squad is who helps the groom move forward into his next stage of life, and are often considered just the best friends or family members, but they really are much more than that.

If you’re a groom and you’re looking for advice on how to choose who makes it through the final cuts, we wanted to take a few minutes today on the blog to talk about what qualities make a good groomsmen and what you should look out for. 

Loyalty

When picking and choosing your groomsmen, before you think of anything else, consider who has been the most loyal to you in your life. This could mean who stuck by you in your toughest times, or who didn’t change when you made your money. Loyalty means no matter what happens, the person has always sought to make you feel like you’re never alone and you always have someone to turn to. If there’s someone who you feel has always been in your corner and you trust them with anything, that person passes the first test. 

Chivalry

Chivalry isn’t dead! When picking who you want to represent your wedding, it’s not just a representation of you. It’s a representation of the union that you and your wife or partner are forming. You want to pick a few people who are honorable and represent all that is great. You want a nobleman, a man of respect, of honor, who lives by the code of what it means to be a good person. This is something that can help the entire operation go down smoothly. The more quality the people you have standing up there with you, and planning this whole thing with you, the better it will go. 

Respect

As you are brainstorming your list of potential groomsmen, or shaving down your list to the final cuts, think about those friends or family members who truly have shown you, and your fiancé, respect. Who has honored your relationship with your future wife and always spoken up, or stayed in their land when the time is right? Who has always proven to be a valuable voice of reason when needed. Who has always helped the relationship move forward in a respectable way, even if it means telling you you need to be better. 

Who Your Fiancé Wants

Ok, so this one’s a little less deep. Ask your fiancé who she would like to see in the wedding. You may be surprised at what she says, but give her time and space to be fully open and honest. Obviously, it’s not all about you on this big day. If she doesn’t want your idiot cousin up there, let her tell you. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t get to be a groomsman, but it means you might need to have a conversation and work some things out in order for him to be up there. You only get to do this one time, (hopefully), so communicating with your fiancé is imperative to making it go over without any issues. Explain to her how that idiot cousin has always respected her, has always been loyal to you, and has always (tried to be at least) been chivalrous. 

Bravery

You need strong support on this journey. You need people around you who are going to make things easier, not harder. Sometimes this means making decisions and planning things that aren’t easy. Thinking about getting a buncha dudes together and making everyone get along isn’t easy, but if you choose the friends and family who are brave, and not afraid of a little intimidation, pressure, and disagreement, you’re looking at the right people. You need people who aren’t going to be afraid, so that you don’t look like you are! Plus, you need some friends and family who aren’t afraid to have a good time too.. Sense of humor is big.

Sense of Humor

Lastly, lets’ remember this wedding is a celebration, not a damn funeral! All things considered, you also gotta include some people who are going to just make things fun. There’s obviously a time and a place for jokes and humor, but if everyone is stiff and nobody has any fun, well, that would stink. Make sure you include the people you know you’re going to have a good time with! That’s what it’s all about, celebrating you and your fiancé’s beautiful love, and that means some laughs and enjoyment!

Hopefully this helps you better understand what boxes to check off when sealing up your groomsmen list. It’s not easy picking one groomsman over another, but if you stick to these key areas, we feel you’ll be happy with what you get. We truly care about groomsmen, and that’s why we created Stag Pack.

Feel free to check out our custom gifts for groomsmen, as well as our bachelor party raffle packs to help get some of that wedding paid for!